Which One Would You Choose?

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30-03-2007

I thought about these situations (may be) couple of weeks back…

Case A:

Life is pretty busy. You don’t have time to think about your personal life or you don’t want to think either. Life goes on. Someday you discover that your parents are disturbing you so much to get married. You give a thought and at the end you give a nod. You end up with someone you don’t even know. Life is pretty dynamic and both get acquainted, start to know each other. Even if things aren’t great, stuffs appear to be okay. After a year or so, you have kids. Things change a lot all of a sudden. Lots of responsibilities, life isn’t simply your life anymore. You love your kids; take care of them as much as possible. You get a new objective of your life…… Time passes by… days… weeks… months… years… even decades. Your kids grow up. There are two possibilities:

1. Your kid finds someone s/he thinks perfect… s/he decides to move on. You either accept or reject. If you accept, you know how your heart feels. You know part of your heart or your existence is leaving you. If you reject things are even worse. In some cases, your rejection might lead to second possibility.
2. You decide your kid is enough grown up. You find someone you think perfect for your child. Again there may be two situations. One is analogous to you; your child never had time to think about his/her life… actually I think this is only theoretical probability. The second situation is, s/he thought about someone, and then decides not to go for him/her; because s/he cares your feeling so much! S/he won’t hurt your feeling anyway. Again life is dynamic. S/he moves on with your perfect selection. The pain is always there… may be in sleepless nights or may be moments when nobody is there. May be sometimes the pain is so intense that if you felt, you would have regretted rest of your life, “Why your kid didn’t decide to take his/her own decision?” Very few people are able to feel what others feel. So you might not be able to feel after all. Still then your kid leaves you, no matter how much you deny everyone knows the pain when part of your heart that belonged to you isn’t yours anymore.

So at the end you ask yourself, “What is this life about? What did I get?” If your feeling wasn’t that intense for your spouse, the only thing in your life was your kid, and now s/he is gone.

Case B:

Two people fall in love with each other. Decide to go on. Things are like “Possibility 1” of “Case A”. You’ve kids… it’s the same old cycle. Bit modification of Case A. Kids, responsibilities… blah blah blah… Grown up kids… their own life… shattered parents’ heart. Two people alone again… time has changed a lot, now aged… May be the intense love isn’t there anymore… Life is pretty painful… Dynamic life goes on.

Case C:

Thinking all these, you feel like life is meant to be alone no matter how much you try to deny. So you decide to be alone. The only difference from “Case A” and “Case B” is you are alone forever, whereas in previous two you had some part of life when you didn’t feel the loneliness. This is like accepting defeat before starting the game.

Which one would you choose for yourself? Is there any way out of this cycle? Isn’t life a meaningless stuff? Why do we always run behind mirage?

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30-03-2007

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Never So Beautiful…

Change… to some it is hard to accept, to some it is unavoidable… sometimes both the faces are present in the same person.

Life is pretty dynamic. Change is inevitable part of it. It takes huge effort (or sometimes only effort) to keep things unchanged… to maintain the passion … But sometimes you know what to do and what not to do… what makes sense and what is sheer stupidity… what is worthy and what is not… what you want and what you don’t… what you can afford and what you cant… Does it feel bad? Well, sometimes yeah, but its only one side of the coin. The better side is life is lot easier if you can learn to accept the changes. You can’t see both the faces at the same time, it’s your decision which one to see… Life goes on the way you choose……

A friend used to say, the passion will never come back… true to every word… But who cares!

Life was never so beautiful…

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Social Fundamentalism … A Face Often Ignored

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21-03-2007

Fundamentalism; A philosophy which is based on adherence to and following of certain rules and practices; no matter how much illogical it appears.

We all are acquainted to the idea of religious fundamentalism. But did you ever give a thought on social fundamentalism?

The main criterion of a fundamentalist is his/her view, logic, concept, idea…… everything is biased to certain ideology or philosophy. If you talk to a religious fundamentalist and argue about religion, you will see that his/her answers or logics come in reference to another book. You can never convince him/her, nor can he convince you.

Social fundamentalists stick to social rules, norms and traditions instead of religious dogma. They can neither accept gradual changes in social values, nor do they respect others’ right of choosing their own way. Society comes to them above all. The first question that comes in their mind before doing anything is, “What others will think?” It is pretty funny. A person with no philosophy but what others think. The worst part with these people is, like religious fundamentalists, their judgement is biased to their philosophy… no matter how much they think, how much they contemplate, no matter how much they ponder, the result is kind of back to square one… they can’t go out of the circle.

Why society forms? To ensure greater survival of individuals. At the same time there are also some basic rules which are maintained by a society: some etiquette, some rules, and some traditions. But if someone tries to make these rules biblical, then there goes the real problem.

May be Tanaeem is right after all- “A world without any social and traditional values would have been a better place where individual judgement would be unbiased.”

Society is for individuals, individuals aren’t for society… If either has to change, society will… ……

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21-03-2007

Always special… No matter what changes…

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15-03-2006

In this world, there are some strange people… may be most are!

If you want to understand the real meaning of any relationship, you have to learn to appreciate the little things… meaningless smile, reasonless frown, sudden rush of emotion, stupid action, simple SMS, an email which had nothing special… but there is always something special… what appears to be ordinary might not be ordinary at all. May be it took hours or days to formulate… Or may be something special took less than five minutes. All you need is the heart to feel… Well, the heart is always there. Some feel when they don’t have anymore. May be rare people feel when they have. I’m grateful to be in latter one.

To me ordinary stuffs remain ordinary, important remains important, extra-ordinary remains extra-ordinary and special is always special… no matter how things change… no matter how much I change!

I think this the reason behind me being “Stronger than the strongest”. I know what I miss. I know I’ll dream. I know I will wait, may be as long as I’m alive. But at the same time, I know what I’ve. And most importantly I don’t deny my heart. Life goes on the way you design it… and it’s always dynamic.

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15-03-2007

Today and Tomorrow

Today and Tomorrow

Mahdi M Moosa

Today I’m strong, cause I’ve to,

Tomorrow I won’t be, cause things change.

Today I’m ignoring everything, cause I can,

Tomorrow I will compromise, cause there will be no option.

Today I enjoy every bit of it, cause I can,

Tomorrow I won’t, cause I will feel the emptiness.

Today life is only the Present, cause it’s the only thing I’ve now,

Tomorrow I’ll again think about Past and Future, cause I’d them.

Today my life is fun, cause I’m having so much adventures,

Tomorrow the cycle will start again, cause yet again life will be boring.

Today I don’t dream, cause I’m disappointed,

Tomorrow I’ll again, cause it’s the only thing I can have in my life…

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It’s A Game…

Three children playing “hide and seek” in a forest. Signed “Meyerheim”, probably by Friedrich Eduard Meyerheim (1808-1879)

Lately I’m realizing things which are quite surprising… I’m not that much surprised though.

Life and relationship are kind of hide and seek game. It’s so funny! People try to hide so many things even from their close ones. Everyone has own reasons… Sometimes for overall betterment, sometimes things may get worse… Blah! Blah! Blah!

I tried to change things around. At least with me. I wanted to be clear and open with some people around. Now I’m surprised to see what happened! Actually things worsened. Anyway, now I’ve realised “Hide and Seek” is the rule of survival in this world. You can’t break this rule without creating lots of problems… And more importantly there is no benefit!

I was wrong in assuming people around me have minds like me!

Physical or Abstract?

Heart- Is it physical or abstract? Is it real or virtual? Is it discrete or continuous? Is it factual or simply a concept? Where does it reside? In rib-case or brain? Or is it both?

Heart is an entity that has fascinated humanity from time immemorial. If we consider it as a physical entity, then everything in it is well defined. Anatomically, physiologically, biochemically, electrochemically it can be classified into different discrete strata. On the contrary, if you take this word as abstract one, things are simply reverse.

Sometimes I feel if we had some sort of physical existence of our abstract heart. If we could split heart into different compartments: one for family, one for friend, one for someone we care, one for someone we like, one for someone we feel, one for someone we hate, one for someone we adore, one for someone we envy, one for someone we love, one for someone we admire, one for someone who impresses in every aspect………… Alas! All these are continuous! You can’t simply separate your feelings like, “This feeling is for caring… this is for hate… this is for feeling… this is for friendship…”Things are kind of continuous. Like any other biological system. Apparently they are unrelated, distinct. When you look closely, you feel actually there is no boundary. It’s just an arbitrary concept!

Wish I could have silenced part of my abstract heart without affecting any other!

(My mouse isn’t functioning from last night. It’s bit tough working without it, but the challenge is kind of fun.)

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A Bond that Never Dies

A true friendship can never die. No matter how tough time the relationship endures.

Ups and downs are part of life. You have good days, worse days, great days, worst days. You can avoid. You can hate. You can take revenge. You can think things will never be Ok. Still you feel your friend. Do you know the other face of the coin? Single step from anyone can heal the crack quite fast.

Every event can be interpreted in different ways… You can bring good out of the worst, at the same time bad out of the best. A relationship can only survive through mutual understanding and of course, TRUST.

So if you are having tough time with your friend, think about taking a step. If the friendship was ever there, things will be fine again within a while.

The Shell That Tore My Heart Apart…

“Human heart is inherently beautiful.”-It’s my life philosophy. I try to fit everyone in this model…

When we do something good, we don’t simply do that for getting a praise or admiration (at least I don’t). Still it feels good when someone praises. But the opposite happened lately for me. I got my best complement on March 1, 2007… followed by another one… and yet another one. And you know something? It felt really bad, as bad as it can be. Appreciation reminded me the pain. Admiration made me feel helpless. Praise told me that if the world had single unlucky person, I’m the one. Tribute appeared as a testimony of the lonely journey of a sailor in search of an island. Acknowledgement came as a shell which tore apart my heart. Homage was like salt in the deep cut… may be it’s like run over of an already dead body by a car…

Sometimes halfway through any class or in the middle of brainstorming, bits and pieces of past events or dreams come up… I feel my life could have been different… If I weren’t the best… mature… sensible… smart… If I weren’t the most wonderful person someone had ever met… If I weren’t “Stronger than the strongest”… If I were like others… Yeah, life would have been lot different… I wish I was a stupid, nonsense, idiot… a never ending list…

Mind is pretty funny isn’t it?